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“My father and two sisters and I were visiting my paternal grandmother on her death bed (she had a terminal illness), and my grandmother had a few minutes with me. My father and sister left the room for us to talk. We talked about whatever she wanted to talk about. I stood there for a while and then she asked me to talk. I asked her what she wanted to do. She stopped, looked up at me and said, “Your grandfather isn’t actually your grandfather.” I was obviously shocked, and if this is true, why? She didn’t tell anyone and why would she tell me about all the people? ”
“She went on to say (I don’t remember the exact words), ‘All my children are from previous marriages. When your father was an infant, he married the man known as your grandfather.”
Then I asked her why she told me that. Then she said, “I don’t want your father or aunt to know, and your brothers are too young.” Don’t tell my kids. ” (She then explains how their biological father was a narcissist and overall rude bastard, and they never had to meet him or even think about him.) This is This happened about 6 years ago, so I don’t remember if there was any further conversation. . But even though I have kept my promise, my father and aunt still don’t know. I feel bad about keeping this from them, but considering my grandmother said their biological father was a narcissist, I’m not that dissuaded from keeping the secret. I trust my grandmother and hope I’m making the right choice, and I hope their biological father died before her. ”
—[anonymous]