Spoiler alert: This article reveals key plot points for the April 9, 2023 episode of Inheritance.
Our jobs are complex and demanding, and strong emotions often influence how we navigate these challenges. One strong feeling — Regret — is shown in this week’s episode. Inheritance, titled “Connor’s Wedding”. This episode brings up some ideas we can all use to deal with regret and use it as a potential force for good.
Kendall, Roman and Shiv Roy, who are on their brother’s wedding yacht, receive shocking news while on a flight to Europe that their father, Logan, is dying, or presumably already dead. While flight attendants perform chest compressions, Shiv’s estranged husband Tom holds her phone to Logan’s ear so her children can talk to her father. Their expressions convey regret—perhaps the realization that they missed previous opportunities to express her love for Logan, despite the betrayal and dissatisfaction on both sides.
According to research, the type of regret the Roy brothers feel is: derived from The remorse that comes from recognizing our present reality might have been better if we had made a different choice. is the common human experienceWe often regret making bad choices in relationships, careers, and education. Years later, you might look back and blame yourself for not taking an exciting job offer, pursuing a somewhat risky dream, or telling others how you really feel. .we tend to regret what we do did not do it do more than we can bottom do, research find. In particular, I regret not being able to prevent negative consequences, such as not expressing love to the deceased.
Many scholars suggest that the purpose of regret is to identify your mistakes and avoid repeating them in the future. By recognizing where we have failed, we can take steps toward personal growth and improvement. In fact, those who express regret about the past improve in the futureThis finding led researchers to conclude that fully accepting and experiencing regret may be the key to overcoming regret.
There are moments throughout the episode that show how you can respond to regrets so that they are less intense and allow you to focus on other aspects of your life.
find closure.
When Tom calls Brother Roy, he tells them that their father is “very, very sick” and describes the situation as “very, very bad.” Logan may have passed away already, but Tom gives the kids a chance to try to reach closure by holding the phone next to their father’s ear and allowing them to share their last words. make. Kendall, Roman, and Shiv each struggle to tell their father they love him and decide whether to forgive his betrayal. “I can’t forgive you,” says Kendall.
Closure is the process of resolving unfinished business or reaching a final sense or acceptance of a situation or event. When people feel that the end is near, they are more likely to feel a sense of resolution and feel less regret about the past.
Regret can serve as a powerful motivator, corrective action, is most effective in the short term, before you think you’ve lost your chance to rectify the situation. The scene where the brothers face their father’s death is a dramatic reminder to express our true feelings instead of missing a crucial moment. Will it lead them to take a different approach to their intimate relationships and the way they work? It will be interesting to see if their regrets have lasting effects.
Please keep your distance.
Logan’s eldest son, Connor, was informed of his father’s death as an afterthought. When he finally heard the news, Connor’s first reaction was, “He never even liked me.”
With these words, Connor addresses what psychologists call motivated reasoning — Cognitive processes in which people use their pre-existing beliefs to interpret information in ways that support those beliefs.
When used to ignore or downplay evidence that contradicts our beliefs, this process can lead to biased thinking, wrong decisions, or inaccurate judgments. direction and purpose. For example, if a person is motivated by a particular goal, such as achieving career success or making a positive impact on society, motivated reasoning can be used to explain that one’s actions are related to that goal. You can be confident that you are on the right track to achieve your goal. Connor apparently hoped for a happy wedding (his goal for the day), not distracted by the incredibly sad news of his father’s passing.
Similarly, motivated reasoning can help us reach more positive conclusions about negative situations and take some distance from the pain those situations create. Partially done by for example, research Those who were encouraged to think positively after a stressful event showed greater resilience and reported fewer negative emotions over time than those who weren’t encouraged to think positively. By looking at negative situations and reconfiguring them to feel better, such as when we reacted to death, we can lessen the intensity of the regret we feel.
Motivated reasoning can also distance us from negative and traumatic events.This distance allows us to make full sense of what is happening. research find. It also helps manage feelings of regret that we may feel.
Accept compartmentalization.
Naturally, the news of a father’s passing is devastating for children. However, Waystar Royco executives soon remind them that decisions important to the business need to be made, such as how to reveal Logan’s death to the world. This news will influence market and board decisions regarding the company’s leadership going forward. When the Roys are confused and deeply saddened, they need to find clarity.
Kendall, in particular, has shown some ability to tackle compartmentalization when telling his brother and sister what they need to do to keep their business options open for the future. and his own ruthlessness may have played a role in his ability to compartmentalize. he says. “So do whatever it takes to be sad, but don’t do anything that will limit your future freedom of movement.”
Compartmentalization, or the act of separating different aspects of our lives into distinct mental compartments, helps us manage stress and maintain a sense of control over our lives. It is also a defense mechanism used by which conflicting thoughts and feelings are consciously or unconsciously separated or separated from each other in the mind.
Compartmentalization can help you avoid dwelling on negative experiences and decisions you may have made in one area of your life, and reduce your regrets. For example, if someone makes a bad decision at work that results in a bad outcome, that experience can be compartmentalized so that it doesn’t affect their personal life or other aspects of their work.
Being able to compartmentalize your thoughts and emotions will help you solve complex problems and think creatively. Separating different areas of your life, such as work and family, also helps you avoid being overwhelmed by the demands of any one area. This allows you to stay focused and productive without neglecting your personal life.
Compartmentalization also helps you set and achieve goals. Breaking big goals into smaller, more manageable tasks helps you focus and move towards them.Additionally, compartmentalization helps keep you motivated and engaged by providing a sense of accomplishment and progress as you progress through each task. not the answer to all problemscan be a valuable tool for maintaining balance and achieving success in business and personal life.
Employing these strategies to deal with regret can turn negative emotions into powerful motivations for growth and change. We’ll see if it shapes future decisions. Will they allow it to consume them, or will they direct it towards something positive? It’s an intriguing question.