Rachel: (lol).
Ali: …Well, screaming and crying and all that stuff, because that’s an emotion too. And those are just as important as feeling happy, excited, and joyful.
Rachel: I think this is great advice for new parents. But I also think it’s great advice for adults themselves to take it upon themselves to name what they’re feeling and why they’re feeling it. Many people know they are feeling something, but have trouble putting a name to it, why they are acting the way they are, or are doing something they are not feeling. I think you are having trouble understanding what is going on. They look back and regret it. So I just think. Perhaps we can all benefit from stopping and thinking about our emotions, but don’t try to stop them. But as a parent, you probably want to step in and fix it, and it’s really hard to just step back and let them feel what they’re feeling without intervening.
Ali: right. And just give it time to process.
Rachel: absolutely. Okay, Ari, last question. This is about advice, what’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
Ali: Understood. So Sue Bird actually told me this. I think it was a quote from Will Smith. Well, maybe we can fact-check that.
Rachel: (lol).
Ali: But, um, when I was going through a really tough time, we went on vacation, um, with her and Megan and I both asked. I said, “What do you see? Do I hang my boots to dry? Like, am I that bad? Like, I’m not…what I’m not doing. What am I not seeing? This is crazy.” But she told me what I’ve been doing ever since, and she said, “ As an athlete or even as a human being, if you are prepared, you never have to prepare.” ”
rachel: Rachel, here you are. So, just to be sure, I checked the facts. It turns out that Will Smith is known for the quote, “So if you’re ready, you don’t have to be ready.” And that’s how I run my life. However, DeJuan Walker, aka Sugar Free, wrote and performed a 1997 single titled “If You Stay Ready.” The single includes the lyrics, “If you’re ready, you don’t have to be ready.”
Ali: And that’s the mentality I took into training to prepare for my return to the national team during that turbulent period. And those daunting, confronting times that I had, uh, those two years with him, where I really had a time of self-discovery, it’s always in the back of my mind. did. And I had to prepare for that opportunity, because if I was prepared and I wasn’t ready, I wasn’t going to make it, so for me in that moment, that advice was golden. I think that’s how it was. So I just, uh, took it, uh, went through two years and eventually came back. And oh, it all made sense. So I’m really grateful that she gave me that advice and words to help me achieve what I wanted at the time.
Rachel: Yeah, this is a really great note and really good advice. I think that applies to many situations. Ali Krieger, thank you so much for being here and being our first guest and sharing your wise words with our listeners. We’re really looking forward to seeing what you do next.
Ali: thank you. Thank you for your invitation. I can’t wait to continue on this path and support SELF and your podcast.
Rachel: Thank you very much. Advice To My Younger Self was produced by Haley Fager and Rachel Miller and edited by Haley Fager. Peyton Hayes is the audio production coordinator and Jake Loomis is the audio engineer. Caitlin Brody and Sergio Kletnoy are our talent bookers.
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