No matter how supportive you are on social media, you can’t help but feel like you’re losing out, especially when comparing yourself to others. The worst time to listen to other people’s success stories is when you’re feeling lost. As I struggled to find my footing in my career, my throat tightened every time I heard the success stories of other people in my field.
Recently, members of an online forum discussed how to deal with the success of others, especially when you don’t want it to be yours. Here are some of their most helpful suggestions.
1. Comparison steals joy.
The real culprit is comparison. You compare yourself to that person and forget that you are different. It’s not easy, but at the end of the day, you have to learn how to differentiate between the two. If you care too much about what others are doing and use it to minimize your own actions, you will never make yourself or others happy.
2. Be grateful for what you have while celebrating others.
Good vibes attract more good vibes. If you are grateful for what you have, you will stop feeling bad about yourself and you will be able to celebrate the joy of others.
3. Control jealousy
A small amount of jealousy can be healthy. It’s okay to be happy and still want to emulate them. One commenter said: But…do you wish you had the brains to land you your next multi-million dollar deal? Yes!
4. Don’t dim your light
Not everyone dreams the same. Don’t get caught up in a scarcity mindset. Celebrating others is celebrating “them,” not “you.”
5. Everyone’s timeline is different.
Just because someone else’s cake is baked and delicious doesn’t mean your cake is terrible because it’s still a work in progress. It will become more delicious over time. Please note that your timeline is not the same as someone else’s timeline. It may be a shame that you don’t have a spouse, children, or a lot of money, but but It’s good that others do so.
One person added that they realized that if they took time to grieve for themselves, they could be happy for others, proving (at least to me) that other people’s happiness is independent of their own circumstances. .
6. Find inspiration
Positivity helps you draw lessons from other people’s success stories. Therefore, they can serve as a source of inspiration rather than anguish. Having a positive “I can do it” outlook will help you achieve your goals. From my own experience, I have written down some takeaways from these stories that may be useful in the future.
7. Take a social media break
Social media provides a plethora of perfect images from other people’s lives. Take control of how you use social media, build healthy relationships online, and if that doesn’t work, take a break from social media for a while. Stepping away from social media can help you focus on yourself.
8. Things are not always what they seem.
Everyone has confident assumptions about life and often hides their insecurities by making themselves look like everything is fine. In this way, we try to convince ourselves that everything will be fine. It has to be done intentionally. Many supposedly happy couples are unhappy. Many efforts are doomed to failure.
Therefore, when people announce important events in their lives, it is important to remember that the assurances that they praised from the rooftops are in no way taken for granted, and that behind it people were just trying to find love and the best hopes. please.
9. Life has stages.
Everyone has stages in life. You may get along just fine, even though you’re getting divorced in a few years. It’s never “over” and looking back and measuring success is very subjective. According to another commenter, other people’s happiness is just as unstable as yours. That’s why there’s no need to compare.
10. Focus on what you can give.
Focus more on what you can give to the world rather than what the world can give you. One user spontaneously (get it?) said, “Confirmation bias is real. If you feel robbed of opportunity and purpose, you’ll spend all day looking for evidence.”
Instead, create an abundance mindset. The easiest way to do this is to give praise, love, help, support, and time, as if you have a lot and enough to give. That way you can enjoy life to the fullest.
11. Gratitude diary
Writing down your feelings of gratitude in a notebook can help you feel better at times like these. Keeping a gratitude notebook can help you reflect on the good things in your life. You will have a much brighter outlook on life, enjoy more fun, and build stronger bonds with those around you. It keeps you cheerful and improves your mood and outlook on life.
12. Get over bad moods quickly
Your first reaction may be self-pity or comparing your life to theirs, but that’s human. If you take a step back, you’ll realize that no matter who it is, you’re truly happy.
Once the initial surge of negative emotions about your position subsides and you are able to think more clearly and calmly, your true feelings toward the other person will become clear.
13. Talk to a therapist
It’s okay if you need professional help. If you can’t make others happy or find joy no matter what you do, a therapist can help you deal with your emotions and provide advice and tools to help you feel better.
14. Don’t forget how far you’ve come
It’s so easy to forget all that you’ve overcome and achieved. I’m sure there was a time when you too were looking forward to getting to where you are now! Life is a journey. With work and a positive mindset, you can achieve anything you want.
Amaka Chukwuma is a freelance content writer with a bachelor’s degree in linguistics. As a result of her insatiable curiosity, she has written in a variety of B2C and B2B niches. However, her favorite subjects are in the fields of finance, health, and technology. In the past she has written for publications such as Buttonwood Tree and FinanceBuzz, and currently she writes for Wealth of Geeks.