But lately, I’m starting to wonder if the trip is really business or a short vacation, as she puts it. She is very excited until she goes on her trip, but she always seems a little disappointed when she comes back. It seems like a vacation to me, but it’s not okay for her to go on vacation without me.
Is this overthinking, or should I go ahead with the plan to give her an ultimatum about going on vacation without me?
there are many This is a bright red danger signal. That’s what you and your female friends do to each other, and what they don’t “allow” for each other.
The possibility that she lies to get away from you twice a month, the disappointment when she returns, and the stability of her job after all this time off all come to mind. . So does your plan to give her her ultimatum.
Ms. Manners loves to travel so much that she suggests two people share a story asking in a non-judgmental way if they would like to go on vacation with you.
Whatever it is, her answer will likely come through. And even if her reaction isn’t satisfying, at least you’ll be free to watch TV in your underwear again.
Dear Manners: I often meet my neighbors while walking my dog. They often ask me to stop and mingle, but I’m very sensitive to what I call “artificial laundry odors,” the persistent odors inherent in many laundry detergents and dryer sheets. The chemicals in these products leave a residue on people’s clothing, making it difficult for them to breathe comfortably, even when standing several feet away outdoors.
What’s the polite way to decline an invitation to socialize in a situation like this? I wish I could.
you don’t have State your reasons for not quitting socializing. As you point out, “Your smell is slowly killing me” isn’t going to make you friends.
Instead, Ms. Manners suggests hinting that you’re in a hurry because your dog’s business is urgent. Smile and wave from afar while making an apologetic gesture to your furry friend. And if one day you come across a neighbor without a dog, hopefully it’s not laundry day.
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