Dear Amy: I have been living with “Sharon” for over 5 years. Our relationship has had its ups and downs (as we all have), but recent events have made me consider breaking up with her.
Sharon’s work history has been pretty spotty, but I’ve been happy to help with the household finances when she’s not working.
We don’t “keep score” on our finances, but not only am I paying the rent, I’m also paying her car payment for the few months she was very thin and making the main payments. There is no doubt that we have supported them.
Honestly, I’m proud to have been able to help.
Sharon has always expressed gratitude for this, usually offering to “pay it back” at some point in the future. I always tell her, “Don’t worry.”
Sharon recently learned that she inherited nearly $10,000 from her great-aunt after her death. She was dizzy and was talking about what she would spend the money on. She never said that she would compensate me or that she would use this money to support the household.
This feels like a last resort, so I’m asking for a gut check.
– in red
Dear Red in the Red: When charting your future, you should look to your past.
You and “Sharon” have established a pattern.
You should continue the relationship if you want more of the same, but that sounds like you believe you deserve better – and I agree.
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