From a younger sister who “can barely move due to her weight” to a 33-year-old adult who doesn’t know how to drive, this family has been torn apart by a used Mazda and the few sentimental jewels left behind by their late mother.cancer
A woman who recently lost her mother to cancer turned to the internet for advice after a row over her inheritance.
It’s sadly not all that uncommon for families to fight over crumbs left behind by their recently deceased matriarch, but the details of this particular story seem to have captivated readers on the Reddit community, who predictably weighed in on the issue. It was divided.
Read on to find out why this story was so influential.
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“AITA who scolded my sister who was angry that I took all of my mother’s valuables after she passed away?”
“My mother (33 years old/female) passed away from esophageal cancer in August 2022. I quit my job as a home care aide so that I could be her caregiver once she was admitted to hospice. I lived there, so I helped out every day anyway. “My Girlfriend and My Dad” OP (original poster) begins.
“Nobody helped me. She had a wonderful hospice team, but they weren’t there all day every day. I cleaned her and made sure she had everything she needed. We checked and coordinated everything with hospice,” she continued. “My father used to cope with things by burying his head in the TV and ignoring him. During the last week of my mother’s life, I had to administer medication every hour, so it was only for a few hours. “I couldn’t sleep. It was worth it.” “For me, she was my best friend in the whole world. But especially when she had to be sent for cleaning, it was very It was traumatic. Her screams will haunt me forever.”
My sister doesn’t even have money to buy a jar of peanut butter and yogurt. I spent $200 on groceries for them.
“My sister (42 years old/female) couldn’t come to help me because she can barely move due to her weight. She lives 10 minutes from us but hasn’t been home in 5 years. “By the time she got here, our mother was completely out of town. She couldn’t talk,” OP wrote, introducing her brother.
“Before she died, when she was still conscious, my mother asked me to take care of everything after she passed away, including planning a celebration of life, cremation, and distributing her belongings. I also said I wanted her wedding ring (priced at $400), a diamond necklace and earring set (priced at $349), and her 2014 Mazda, even though I don’t drive. To have 3. In case I wanted to learn, and if not, in case she said I could sell it.”
“Well, since I choose not to drive the car, I’m selling it to my father’s girlfriend’s granddaughter for $3,000. My sister is very jealous (and very interested in her brand). “Because she said her husband could sell it for $10,000 and they could have two people on the committee,” she went on to explain. “I told her I already had a buyer. But I paid her husband $150 to detail the car. Her sister was very upset that she didn’t make a penny from the sale. He finally got mad at me last night.”
On the other hand, she hasn’t worked in over 10 years, and her husband is in the country illegally, so there are very few places he can work, and the job is terrible.
“She said my mom would be mad if she found out I was selling the car for cash. I told her what she said. I said it was up to me. My mother said that it was very funny that I got everything of her value.I only received some of her ashes and memorabilia.I told her, what can I say? I didn’t know what to do and said my mom left those things with me.She hung up on me so I sent her this before blocking her.
“‘I’m sorry. I’m the one who broke my motherfucker. I took care of her in her last days. I held her hand as she was dying. I don’t want you, your dad, anyone. But not me, so she would be.” “She’s given me more than anyone else, because I’ve been there for her through it all.” You didn’t even try to come here for five whole years–King years. So you got your infuriating attitude and…
“AITA? I’m starting to doubt myself and feel guilty. What do you guys think?” she concluded.
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Her father isn’t her sister’s father… and other complicated wrinkles
Reddit was a bit divided on this whole issue, with some pointing out that without a will the sister would be entitled to a portion of the estate, while others were just as supportive of the OP. .
When one Redditor told a woman that they were completely on her side and guessed this issue had been going on for years (rather than a one-off over an inheritance), she said: I answered.
“Look, that’s what I was feeling and why I posted it. I feel guilty about what I said and maybe some of it was pent-up frustration with her. Maybe. This has always been going on throughout our lives. She once told me that the worst day of her life was the day I took my first breath. Because I stole this wonderful life that she was supposed to have (spoiler: it wasn’t wonderful). Lately she’s been so jealous that I can do things and buy things. “I have money. Just kidding, I have money because I work hard as a DSP in a group home for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Misconception. Don’t do it. I love my job, but it’s very tiring.” Well, if I had a little extra money, I might splurge on concert tickets or a tattoo or buy a $15 eyeshadow palette. No (yes, she was upset about that). It’s been 10 years and her husband’s job is terrible because he is an illegal immigrant and there are very few places he can work. ”
She once told me that the worst day of my life was the day I took my first breath. Because I stole her wonderful life that she was supposed to have (spoiler: it wasn’t wonderful).
When another Redditor asked how her “incapacitated” sister was able to get to her mother, OP said, while noting that the services of the fire department may have been necessary. Ta.
“She was taken by a friend in a van and we had to remove the back seat so she could almost sit on the floor of the van, and I know it was difficult for her. I wish she could just come over.”One day I slept for just a few hours so I could get some sleep.I was so sleep-deprived that I started passing out. The sound of my mother’s “death rattle” was so painful that she couldn’t even talk to me on the phone. Let her hear her. ”
“Information: Do you have a will?” asked a legally conscious Redditor.
“No, it wasn’t like that. She didn’t really have much of value,” OP replied.
For me it was all worth it, she was my best friend in the whole world, but it was very traumatic, especially whenever she had to be turned around for cleaning. Her cries will haunt me forever.
Another participant in the thread noted, “She had a car.” “Was your father also on the title? If she decides to contact a lawyer, there might be a problem.”
“Yes, he is on the title and is cooperating with me 100% in selling it, especially since he gets $1,000 out of it. That my father is not my sister’s father. So you don’t know how that will affect things.Also, my sister doesn’t even have money to buy jars of peanut butter and yogurt, and I don’t know what they are. “I just spent $200 on groceries for her. So I don’t think she has money to hire a lawyer,” OP said.
“Hey, without a will, you don’t automatically get everything based on your mother’s word,” yet another attorney wrote. “No matter where you live, it’s done according to what the law says. And that somehow includes just you, and it doesn’t include your sister (or your dad if you were married to your mom).” I guarantee you it won’t, and you may not be able to sell it.” You cannot legally drive the car without your sister’s consent or the help of a lawyer. ”
What do you think?
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