New York Magazine recently published The Definitive List of Etiquette Tips For everyone who may need them, we will update you on COVID precautions and what has changed in the changing social climate. (How to deal with layoffs! How to host a dinner party with celebrities, a scenario I absolutely know personally!)
Some rules for digital communication cover what we already know. Unless you were born in an era without phones, texting someone ‘k’ her is basically asking them to jump before posting a conversation or photo online. It’s like asking a friend to agree. It’s basic courtesy. But there aren’t many solid guidelines for online (all of us) manners in the end of life. Here are some recommendations for digital etiquette:
Finstas, close friends, and privacy
1. Do not ask to be added to someone’s close friends or Twitter circles. That’s their private platform! Asking for an invitation is as rude as walking into an acquaintance’s house and expecting them to serve you a meal.
2. What your close friends say will remain in your close friends. Sometimes you need to vent your work stress or quietly sub-tweet a friend. If you are in that circle of choice, they trust you not to share it. Screenshots, quotes, or screen recordings are a breach of trust.
3. Posting “Who wants to join???” is corny.
4. A finsta with over 100 followers is just a vlog space. Do you trust 100 people to know your deepest, darkest secrets?
5. When you’re no longer friends with someone, it’s best to remove them from finsta. My friend and I cut ties with someone who has a finsta that we all follow. She also has a close group of friends within Finsta where she told other friends about me and my friend.
6. Venmo always — everytime — Be private. Going Private with VENMO I once found out that a friend of mine was secretly hooking up with her boss via VENMO for no reason just to go private.
7. No need to see every TikTok your friends sendWe are all overstimulated at every moment of our day. It’s unreasonable to expect someone to click on every link they receive.
8. If you’ve seen TikTok/meme/whatever, don’t be fooled. If a friend texts you a TikTok you’ve seen, simply respond with a “haha” and don’t say “yeah, I already saw it.”
9. Be very careful when using someone else’s streaming login. If you’re logged into the account of someone you know well who gave you access, you’re fine.But if you’re watching using your friend’s brother’s or godmother’s nephew’s account Ant-Man Or whatever, should only be used to see something specific and then log out.
10. If you plan to unfollow someone, remove them from your followers as well. Other than that, it seems like a weird grab for follow-up rates that we know to be an outdated social media influence indicator.
11. If someone does not accept your BeReal request, do not take it personally. Some people just want to get things across to an audience of three, but that doesn’t mean they hate you.
12. If you connect someone to FaceTime or speakerphone, you need to let them know if someone else is in the room. I don’t know what will happen.
social scenario
13. Feed the phone first when eating with the poster. Branch overlays aren’t the worst crime ever committed. If your friend wants to take a photo of their omelet, don’t deprive them of a beat to capture that lovely memory.
14. No more than 2 photos of food served at the table. The brunch is nice too, but it doesn’t get any better than the two pictures. First he takes one shot and retakes it if it is blurry. that’s it. The phone lowers the screen onto the table. Don’t keep people waiting!
15. If a friend says he’s 5 minutes away and Find My Friends tells me he’s still at home, I can’t call him. We already know how long we actually have to wait. They are five minutes apart in their minds and can be teased if they meet IRL.
16. When you meet someone at a party, you can ask for their social handle when they leave. Use social media as intended. Keep in touch with people you think are cool and send them nice messages. Instagram if you think you’re cute, Twitter if you want to expand your network. You can only ask for the number if the person is not online. This is much more personal than social.
17. If someone asks for your social media details and you don’t want to share them, just lie. “I’m not super online!” is the best excuse. you owe them nothing.
18. If someone asks you to take a photo in a busy place, take 3 live photos. That way, they can scroll through the photos for the ones that matter, get a small bunch of options, and don’t clog their phones with blurry photos featuring someone’s half-closed eyes. There are no exams. We all have our place.
19. Airdropping photos to friends is better than texting them. What is this, 2018?
20. When you find a match in the app’s IRL, press and hold it. This goes for platforms like Bumble BFF as well as dating apps. The city is big. there are other people around.
flirting and lurking
21. Likes occur on posts deep in the archive. But you need to get out of there early. If you’ve been stalking your ex’s new partner and accidentally liked the post, you should object immediately, make your account private, delete your profile, and change your username.
22. If you’ve just started seeing someone or you have a crush, don’t lurk on that person’s Spotify. Public profiles where people try to curate their existence are usually fine. But other than that it’s too intimate. Want to read their diaries or crack their skulls under a microscope?
23. Immediately following someone on two separate platforms means you are a DTF.
24. Fire Reactions and 100 Reactions on Instagram are frivolous in nature. Please keep this in mind.
25. Always double-check who to reply to on Instagram Stories. If you’re trying to send X’s story to Y , Commentary, make sure you’re not DMing X. If you are caught sending someone the wrong thing, please unsend the message and apologize as soon as possible.
26. If you dated someone once and they’re still looking at your Instagram story, don’t read it. They’re probably stuck in the subway without thinking about you.
27. If someone leaks information you learned while lurking on your social media, don’t bully them about it. I don’t want that energy to come back to you and say, “Haha, were you stalking me?” The situation cannot be brought back to normal.
28. Hide or mute people you have bad blood so they don’t see your story. Life is too short to wonder why they are watching your content.If enthusiastic people are watching your stories, congratulations, you win.
29. Stop giving people your Snapchat when flirting. We are no longer 12 years old.
dating
30. Soft launch or hard launch whenever you want – nobody really cares. When you start posting about tea, people only want tea.
31. Accept people snooping if you choose to show a change in the relationship. Social media is for consumption by others.
32. The first photo on your dating profile should not be a group photo. Eggs are $10 and are vying for Beyoncé tickets. You don’t have time to figure out who you are in a group of 12 people.
33. You don’t have to tell everyone that you broke up. Unless you’re a reality TV star that you share with your fans, your middle school biology partner doesn’t need to know that you’re consciously detaching, but you remain friends.
34. Stop following your friend’s ex-girlfriend out of solidarity. Or on the flip side, if the breakup is amicable, you can grant a pardon and allow everyone to follow your exes.
35. If you’re recently single, archive all your couple photos on Instagram. You’re not obligated to tell people the details of your personal life, but if you’re planning on meeting other people, it might make things a little clearer from the start.
