Having two single parents can make dealing with children a little more complicated. It can get pretty tough at times, but if your partner is worth it, then you should marry them.
Reddit user u/picklejuice4044 got into an argument with his fiancé after he took their daughters and left his 10-year-old daughter (Charlie) alone at home.
It sounds like there is something wrong with the brew.
first problem
OP and his fiancée have been together for about four years. She shares custody of her two daughters, ages 12 and 15. His fiancé said she moved into his house in September and had no issues until November when they discussed her bedroom arrangement.
The OP’s fiancé wanted the eldest daughter to have her own room while the younger girl shared a room (kicking out Charlie). The OP felt that Charlie might feel alienated at home, so he didn’t fly it.
I can understand his fiancée wanting his eldest daughter to have her own room. On the other hand, Charlie, the OP’s child, may feel like the Queen has been kicked out of her throne.
Who leaves a 10 year old home alone?
Well, OP went to work a 12 hour shift. When he returned, Charlie reported to him how his fiancé took her daughters out to her meal and left her at her house.
Aside from being home alone, knowing that her stepsisters are having fun while their father’s fiancée leaves home is a great way to help him regardless of what his fiancée’s reasons are. , must have hurt her feelings.
They came back with a stone-cold bag of takeout for her. Half a loaf of bread is better than nothing, right?
When the OP confronted her fiancée about this, she confirmed Charlie’s story. She said that’s why her food was cold. I was in the car playing golf.
I would have left out the “golf” part. TRUE did you have?
The OP said she kept getting distracted by the food, saying she expected Charlie to warm it up before eating it. I believed that… In my opinion, it’s fair.
But she replied, “But I took her food home.”
The OP was then asked, “Why can’t Charlie just go out?”
He explained that he only took Charlie out twice in the last month when her daughters were there. For grocery shopping and taking the cat to the vet. This is far from what the OP’s fiancée did.
He may not mention it, but things like this are a pretty big deal and can cause minor complications. There is also a possibility. This is something women don’t want in their new homes.
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Fast forward a few days later and OP’s fiancé took the girls to the dentist.
“I hope this doesn’t offend Charlie either.”
I know she really didn’t want me to say that, but she did.
Nervous at the OP, he called her wild. Both later apologized, but the original argument came back: her OP’s fiancé said it was OP’s rudeness that caused her problems with taking out her child. rice field.
I think the fiancée is missing the point here.
The OP understood where she was coming from, but preferred to plan regular separate outings on the same day so the kids didn’t feel left out. We’ve made a lot of comments, including comments about how they have no problem spending time alone with Charlie when they’re with their dad.
She also stated that this would not be the last time Charlie would be left out due to the age difference between him and her eldest daughter.
There are age differences, but there are activities for everyone. Also, it’s the idea that really matters.Charlie may want to feel that she is just as important as the other girls, and the OP is that she feel That way.
“Make your point”
A lot has been written about this incident on Reddit. u/thirdtryisthecharm believes that both the OP and his fiancé have handled the matter poorly.
“ESH. Your wife is right to treat you badly. But so are you. Treating Charlie as your own child doesn’t mean including Charlie in everything.”
u/missy20201 replied to this comment.
“You’re right, but leaving a 10-year-old home alone all day and bringing back the cold food you left in the car while golfing was still a pain. At least for the drive-thru on the way home.” Didn’t they stop by and bring you hot food? They definitely need to make more adjustments in the future.”
Other users have concluded that the OP’s fiancé has issues. With evidence, they would be right to think so. They advise the OP to stand his ground and keep pushing the issue.
The OP should decide if this is a red flag and make a decision about it.
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